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Two Faced or Family Etiquette?
The Twinkie Sisters
We’ve been spending a lot of time with family the past month due to graduation parties, baby showers, etc and I noticed something.
It’s something so subtle that you don’t really take time to notice it or if you do notice it you don’t question it. It is what it is. Period.
What is this “something” that I noticed? The fact that we act different around our families. We don’t act like “ourselves.”
Or do we?
I mean what is the real us anyways? I’ve really been giving this some thought. Am I being fake when I don’t cuss, drink or smoke around my family?
a cigarette and a beer usually go hand in hand with me
Or is that still me. Just a different part of me?
I tend to think we’re all multi-faceted. I’m not just a friend. I’m a mom. And a daughter. And a wife. And I have different personality traits that I hone in on while I’m around them.
But what do YOU think? Do you think I’m pretending to be something I’m not if I hold back a part of me?
Do you find yourself acting different in front of your mom than you do when you’re around friends? Why do you think this is so? I mean, aren’t we all adults here and if I’m a smoking adult I shouldn’t NOT smoke just because of the people I’m around?
If I drink should I NOT refrain from drinking when I’m around certain people in my life?
I’m really curious to see what you all think about this.
Comments
Oh boy! I get where you're coming from. It's hard to explain though, especially with the family that I have. We are a very united family... all of us including my extended family. However, in the same sense I feel we, as a family, are very closed minded or hard headed. It's like we cant do anything different because we end up being the center of the family gossip mill. We cant do or have anything that we dont share with them because now we are malagradecidos.
I, for one, am tired of having to be someone else all the time. I cant be myself around my family without having some kind of drama so in an effort to avoid the drama I just act the way they think is "normal." But why should I compromise my personal choices to please others.
Aw mann, I could go on and on, but I wont because I'll start blubbering and making no sense at all. But trust me I know where you're coming from.